But see the thing is even if this is NOT the case - newlywed couples still publicly like to act like it is. Couples will go to great lengths to over dramatize their new sex life or the perfectness that comes with marriage.
When in reality things may look a bit different- sometimes the first year of marriage is a lot of fighting, a lot of figuring things out and getting used to the others persons good and bad habits. And the biggest of them all is you learn the most about yourself, how prideful you can be and how hard it is to give another person the upper hand on things in your life. It takes work and it takes this adjustment from; life that was all about you to life that is now about the both of you.
The stereotype can be scary and that’s possibly the reason people feel the need to hide behind facades. But there is definitely too much actual real life good in the first year of marriage to hide behind the pretend stuff...
So if there were to be a list of “it’s okay if…” and “that’s totally normal when…” and plenty of “hey, give yourself a break you are a newlywed...” here is a little sneak peak into what that would look like.
- It is okay if... you don’t make plans or post pictures for EVERY month anniversary. It doesn’t show the world you really don’t like your husband/wife anymore…it just says you are normal and I mean in the grand scheme of your whole life it may just keep you sane if you stick to the 6 month anniversary and one year anniversary celebrations. Because hey- anniversary or not work, bills, and life goes on so it’s okay even if you didn’t remember.
- That’s totally normal if… you want to scream at your other half every time they leave all their hair in the shower or leave the toilet seat up AGAIN. Who doesn’t have annoying habits? So remember how much you love them and breath and remind them for the 100th time that it grosses you out.
- And hey give yourself a break, you are a newlywed… if the in laws and basically all the neighbors on your street won’t get off your back about kids…take your time, if people don’t get that it is probably just because they are jealous they didn’t do that.