Saturday, January 18, 2014

Ring Bearer Duties and Responsibilities

Flower girl and ring bearer: photo by nshontz.
During the wedding ceremony, the ring bearer is responsible for carrying the bring and groom's wedding down the aisle to the alter. It's only when the couple receives their rings that they can exchange vows and say their "I do's." But what's the best approach to having a ring bearer at your wedding? And should you really entrust them with you and your soon-to-be spouse's wedding rings? To learn the answer to these questions and more, keep reading.

Choosing a Ring Bearer

The ring bearer is typically a young boy in the immediate family of either the bride or groom, between the ages of 4-9 (see image to the left). Seeing a handsome young ring bearer walking down the aisle is bound to create some smiles among guests, which is one of the reasons why this modern tradition has become so popular over the years.

There's really no specific criteria to follow when choosing a ring bearer for your wedding. Ideally, you should choose someone that's in your immediate family, such as a young nephew. However, some couples may not have any boys between the ages of 4-9 in their family. In this case, you can ask a close friend or second relative if they are willing to perform the duties of being the ring bearer. Most young children love the attention of being the ring bearer, so you shouldn't have any problems finding a willing participant.

When Should The Ring Bearer Walk?

While some couples may perform their ceremony differently, the ring bearer is typically one of the last parties to walk down the aisle. The bride, groom, bridesmaids, groomsmen and priest will all be standing at the alter when the ring bearer enters. Typically, the ring bearer carries the couple's rings tied to the top of a pillow, with the flower girl tossing out rose pedals right behind him.

Real vs Fake Rings

One of the decisions you'll have to make when planning a wedding is whether to give your actual wedding rings to the ring bearer or fake rings. Depending on how much you and your spouse spent on the wedding rings, you may feel slightly hesitant placing them in the hands of a mischievous young boy. In this case, you can hand them fake rings to take some of the stress off your shoulders. Once the ring bearer makes his way up to alter, the groom can pull the actual rings out of his pocket.


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